While trainer, author and auctioneer may be my professional titles, mom, wife and friend are equally important titles in my life. I try to add kindness into every aspect of my life because I believe every being deserves compassion, encouragement and respect.
JillMarie Wiles is a highly accomplished auctioneer with a true passion for the auction method of marketing. With over 25 years of experience in the fundraising auction arena, JillMarie has perfected her craft on and off the auction stage. A keen fundraising auctioneer and consultant, JillMarie harnesses her professional experience and strategic insight to successfully assist nonprofit organizations in their fundraising efforts.
In 2001, JillMarie was awarded the prestigious title of 2001-2002 International Auctioneer Champion. The International Auctioneer Championship is the largest bid-calling championship in the world and is the premier showcase of auction talent, hosted annually by the National Auctioneers Association.
JillMarie is an industry leader and has served as a Past President of the Oregon Auctioneers Association, a National Auctioneers Association Education Institute Trustee and National Auctioneers Association Foundation Trustee.
Throughout her career, JillMarie has maintained a deep commitment to enhancing the continuing education platforms available to auctioneers throughout the world. As a co-author and instructor for the Benefit Auction Specialist Designation (BAS), she was a key player in the development of this professional designation provided through the National Auctioneers Association, offering Auctioneers throughout the world with advanced training in planning and conducting successful fundraising auctions.
An accomplished speaker, JillMarie has conducted auction industry seminars throughout the country and taught bid-calling techniques at the World Wide College of Auctioneering.
JillMarie and her husband, Tim Stuart (also an auctioneer), have been married for 30 years, and together have ridden 30,000+ miles through all 50 states on their Harley Davidson motorcycles. JillMarie and Tim live in Canby, Oregon, with their teenage daughters, Lily and Ava, who are both also professionally-trained auctioneers.
Listening to a friend yesterday share with me how someone pulled their dream apart with heavy criticism rather than mindful suggestions made me think of the Zig Ziglar quote:
“Some people find failure like there is a reward for it.”
Here are the thoughts I had and the suggestions I gave. When a person criticizes it shows what lens they are looking through. Criticism is an indication of how the critic feels, what their reference point is, not who you ultimately are. A critical evaluation can be delivered with a defeating punch or mindful intention. One is meant to tear you down and the other approach is to give you a new perspective that empowers you. When you go looking for advice or direction then make sure you know your source. If you don’t come away feeling renewed with a sense of hope and have a better outlook then find another source that goes more than surface deep. That offering of support made me think of another wonderful Zig Ziglar quote:
“Don’t let others be your judge & jury with their pity, negative thoughts or feelings. Know that you are here for a reason. Recognize, develop, and use the resources you do have. Others see the surface; you know your heart.”
Those two life-affirming quotes can recalibrate any day after a dismantling critic comes in with swinging blows. This goes for self-talk too as we can be our own worst critics when we’re not being gracious with ourselves. When negativity grabs hold of your day and starts to dominate your mind, take a moment to check in with your heart about what the truth really is. If needed, invite a friend to help you who also has the ability to see your heart.
My intention in sharing this post was to help anyone who is still feeling the sting of someone “taking a piece out of them” or is tired of living in the perpetual loop of negative self-talk. Here are two final inspirational quotes from Zig that sums up how to shutdown the critic, either coming from the outside or from within:
“Failure is an event, not a person.”
“Remember, it’s just a bad day, not a bad life.”
A sign of inner peace is frequent episodes of appreciation, feelings of connectedness with others & nature along with attacks of smiling through the eyes from the heart. ~ Mildred Lisette Norman
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